FAQ




Frequently Asked Questions
Want to know more?
What Happens on an EE Weekend?
Where are EE Weekends Held?
Why Should We Go on A Weekend?
Do I Have to be Catholic?
Does Engaged Encounter fulfill the Catholic Church's Requirement ?
What if We Are Civilly Married?
What supplies are provided?
Is there public speaking?
What does a weekend cost?
What should we bring to the weekend?
What time should we arrive?
What is the weekend schedule?
Do we have to stay for the entire weekend?
What is our refund policy?
Is dinner provided on Friday evening?
Will we be staying overnight?
Are there any ground rules for the weekend?
Can you accommodate my special diet needs?
What should we wear?
Where can I smoke?
Will we have much free time this weekend?
What is Christ the King Retreat Center like?
Will this satisfy the NFP requirement for the Sacramento Diocese?


Want to know more about our weekend?

Catholic Engaged Encounter helps engaged couples prepare for their lives together as husband and wife. We enable couples to pursue a comprehensive, private, and personal marriage preparation experience over the course of a retreat weekend within the context of the Catholic faith and values. While the program is Catholic in origin, engaged couples of any faith wishing to prepare for a deeper, more meaningful marriage are welcome. The video below may answer some questions for you.


What Happens on an EE Weekend?

An atmosphere is created for the two of you to concentrate exclusively on each other, free of the distractions, pressures and interruptions of daily living – a “time out” away from home, friends, and wedding preparations. There are no group dynamics or group therapy. It is a quiet weekend, specifically designed to give you the opportunity to talk honestly and intensively about your future together – an opportunity to discover a deeper appreciation of your relationship and God’s call to unite in a permanent union, the Sacrament of Matrimony.

The weekend consists of a series of presentations beginning Friday evening and ending Sunday afternoon. Led by a team of married couples and a priest, the two of you are encouraged to talk privately with each other on many aspects of marriage, always from the viewpoint of your own relationship.

Among the subjects you will have an opportunity to discuss with each other are your ambitions, goals, attitudes about God, sex, money, children, family, and your role in the church and community. Personal reflection and couple discussion are the main focus of our weekend. Since each relationship is in a different place, your private answers will be unique and special to your relationship.

Through personal sharing, the members of the presenting team talk about what the sacrament of matrimony means to them individually and the impact a great marriage can have on the world. We will not tell you how to live your life. Our stories are meant to encourage you to explore your own attitudes and expectations. We will offer some good ideas and tools to help the two of you to continue growing closer through the years.

Where are EE Weekends Held?

We are blessed to be able to hold our weekends at Christ the King retreat center in Citrus Heights, CA.

Why Should We Go on A Weekend?

Our motto is a “A wedding is a day, a marriage is a lifetime.” Think of all the preparation you have done for your career or job. Most us spend years studying or learning. Think of the preparation taken for your wedding day. Most people spend months planning and many dollars preparing for their wedding. But how much time and effort do we spend preparing for what we hope will last 50 or 60 years – our marriage?

Ask yourself this question, “Am I willing to spend 44 hours devoted to hearing ideas and learning skills that will help to make my marriage the best it can be?”

Do I Have to be Catholic?

No. Catholic Engaged Encounter does present God as a focus for a successful marriage. While the weekend will be presented in a Catholic expression of faith, each weekend is open to couples of all faiths. The opportunities of the weekend go well beyond the boundaries of any one faith expression. We are not going to try to convert you or pressure you in any way. Couples where neither person is Catholic are welcome also.

Does Engaged Encounter Satisfy the Catholic Church's Requirement for Marriage Preparation?

Within the Diocese of Sacramento, Engaged Encounter is endorsed as fulfilling this requirement. Our program is also frequently accepted in other Dioceses and states. Whether in Sacramento or elsewhere, your priest always has the final say on what he will accept for your marriage preparation. Please check with the priest who will officiate your wedding before registering. At the conclusion of the weekend, you will receive a certificate to show your priest verifying your participation.

What if We Are Civilly Married?

After you meet with your priest and he schedules your wedding, you are welcome on the weekend as you prepare for your sacramental marriage within the Church.

Do We Have to Speak In Front of the Group?

No. Engaged Encounter is non-threatening. You will be asked to introduce yourself and your fiancé. This is the only time you are required to speak in front of the group. There will be only two group discussion periods, one short and one longer. Participation is voluntary. No one is forced to speak out. Your privacy will be respected. The weekend is designed for the two of you to have quality time for private discussions.

What does a weekend cost?

The cost of the weekend is $360 per couple. This fee covers your materials, room (double occupancy*), and meals for each of you. Dinner will not be served Friday night, so please eat before you arrive. We are unable to hold a spot for you on a given weekend date until payment is received. When your payment is received you will receive an email confirming your registration. Scholarships are available. If you need assistance, please contact our registration couple to begin the scholarship process. No couple will ever be turned away for financial reasons.

* Please note: Double occupancy means you will be assigned a roommate of the same gender during the weekend. While we recognize that couples may already be living together, you will not be permitted to share a room with your fiancé while on the weekend.

What should we bring to the weekend?

Please be sure to bring the following items with you:

Comfortable casual clothing

A snack (such as cookies or fruit) to place on the shared snack table which will be available in the conference room

All sheets and blankets are provided but you are asked to bring your own personal toiletry items (shampoo/conditioner, hair dryer, etc).

What supplies does EE provide for the weekend?

The following items will be provided on the weekend. You do NOT need to bring these items: Refreshments (soft drinks, coffee, tea, hot chocolate, milk, orange juice), notebook, and pens.

What time should we arrive?

The Engaged Encounter Weekend will begin on Friday evening with Check-In at 6:30 PM, program starting promptly at 7:00. Because we are on a tight schedule, we cannot wait for couples who arrive late. If there is an emergency and you must be late, please call the EE line at 916-534-8602.

What is the weekend schedule?

Friday: 7:00 p.m. to 10:00 p.m

Saturday: 8:00 a.m. to 10:00 p.m.

Sunday: 8:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m.

The weekend typically ends with a closing Mass on Sunday. In special or unusual circumstances, our schedule may change, but the weekend should still run no later than 3 pm.

Do we have to stay for the entire weekend?

YES. It is very important that you stay for the entire weekend. If you arrive late or leave early you will miss important parts of the weekend experience, and we will not be able to give you your weekend certificate verifying your attendance.

What is our refund policy?

In the event you need to cancel for any reason, $100 is non-refundable and non-transferable within 14 days of the start of the retreat. No refunds will be issued on or after the start date of the retreat.

Will we be staying overnight on the weekend?

Yes, Christ the King is a retreat center. Part of the experience is getting away from your daily life for the span of the weekend, so the two of you can focus on each other and your relationship. It is one of the aspects that many couples appreciate most when attending.

The cost of the weekends allows for double occupancy – meaning we will have 2 brides or 2 grooms in each room. If you desire a single room, please contact our registration couple to find out if one is available for your weekend. There is an additional $50 cost per person for single rooms.

Are there any ground rules for the weekend?

Yes, we do ask that you observe a few basic rules.

Do not bring anything that will be a distraction to you as a couple such as laptops or other items that may distract you.

Please do not bring children or pets to the weekend. Make arrangements for their care prior to your weekend. The weekend is for you to focus on each other.

Please do not leave the weekend, for any reason, unless an emergency arises. If you need to leave, please speak to one of the team members.

Will dinner be served on Friday evening?

No, dinner will not be served on Friday. On Saturday, three meals (breakfast, lunch, and dinner) will be served. On Sunday, two meals (breakfast and lunch) will be served.

Can you accommodate my special diet needs?

The retreat center handles all food preparation for meals. They can accommodate vegetarians, gluten free and nut allergies. We request that you let us know at least two weeks’ prior to the weekend so we can notify the retreat center.

What should we wear?

Dress for the entire weekend is casual. Please dress comfortably. While you are welcome to do so, there is no need to change for dinner or Mass.

Where can I smoke?

All of our facilities prohibit smoking. You may, however, smoke in the designated area outside of the building.

Will we have much free time this weekend?

No, the weekend is designed to be intense so that you can spend as much concentrated time together as possible preparing for your marriage. Time permitting; we will have a break on Saturday afternoon.

Will this satisfy the NFP requirement of the Sacramento Diocese?

No, the material presented on the weekend will only give you a very brief introduction to NFP. Resources will be made available for local practitioners who have NFP introduction classes. Sacramento Diocese has a updated resource which talks about why NFP education is required in the Sacramento Diocese.

What is Christ the King Retreat Center like?

The slideshow below shows you some pictures from the retreat center.